We all want to see our kids have friends and be part of the community. Finding these connections can be one of the more challenging parts of parenting a child with a disability or special health care need. These tips and ideas are starting points to engage a child or teen in the community and build friendships. In most cases, these ideas do not assume parents or other family members will provide direct support.

School

One of the best places to create meaningful relationships is at school. Your child’s school has clubs, sports and after-school programs that are great ways to make connections with peers.

• • • Talk with Your Child’s IEP Team or special education teacher about adding peer-interaction goals to the IEP. Ask the team how they can support your child to participate in more school-related activities. You can also talk with coaches, club coordinators or other school staff about how your child can get involved in extracurricular activities. 
    • Best Buddies and Peer Partner Programs pair students with and without disabilities. They enjoy school activities together and promote new friendships. If your child’s school doesn’t have one of these programs, you can advocate to start one. To learn more bestbuddies.org/wisconsin.
    • Your child can take part in a school-sponsored music, sports or art programs with the help of a peer or school support staff.

     “My son loves music! An aide attended high school orchestra practices with him, and he handed out programs at the winter concert. It was a great way for him to be part of the group.”   – Wisconsin parent

• • • Booster Clubs or Philanthropy Programs host fundraisers for charity. Talk with the group’s organizer to see if there’s a volunteer slot for your child with the help of a peer or school staff.
    • Many high schools and honor societies require service hours for graduating students. Your child’s teacher may know students who need volunteer hours by attending school-related activities or other community events with a peer. Students who are interested in going into human services or healthcare fields may be a great fit for supporting a peer with special needs.

Community Recreation and Leisure Programs

• • • YMCA and Sports Clubs may provide peer support to include your child if you speak with group coordinator. Many community nonprofits and recreation programs have this type of support, some don’t even require a parent to be there.
    • Service Clubs like the Kiwanis and Lions Clubs have projects in your community that your child or young adult can join. Also, ask if there is a member who can provide support to a person with a disability.
    • Boy Scouts and Girl Scouts are open to children with different abilities. With some direction from families, many troop’s leaders can modify activities and find ways for all children to be members.